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The verses that have REALLY spoken to me (Sarah) lately....

"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock." Matthew 7:24-25

Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. I Peter 5:8-9

From one man he made every nation of men, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he determined the times set for them and the exact places where they should live. God did this so that men would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from each one of us. For in him we live and move and have our being. As some of your own poets have said, 'We are his offspring.' Acts 17:26-28

May the words of my mouth and the mediation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock, and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14

So be careful to do what the Lord your God has commanded you; do not turn aside to the right or to the left. Walk in all the way that the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live and prosper and prolong your days in the land that you will possess. Deuteronomy 5:32-33

God, our God, will take care of the hidden things but the revealed things are our business. It's up to us and our children to attend to all the terms in this Revelation. Deuteronomy 29:29 (The Message)

About the Friesen's....

We are Marc, Sarah, Luke, and Kate Friesen. We were married June 5, 2004. We have one son, born July 21, 2008, named Luke Andrew -- now 4 years old. We also have a daughter named Kate Christine -- born June 6, 2012. Marc is working at Cessna as a Senior Accountant, and Sarah stays home full-time with Luke. Sarah also gets to work very part-time at home for Graber Backhoe -- an excavation company AND VERY part-time at our church. We LOVE being a part of Grace Community Church here in Newton, KS. We lead a Community Life Group of other wonderful couples. Marc thoroughly enjoys long-distance running and Taekwondo. Sarah thoroughly enjoys walking -- especially when the weather is nice to take Luke and/or out in the stroller. Thanks for reading our blog!

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Thoughts from My Mind....

WARNING! This post will be a "No Pic" post -- just a bunch of ramblings from my head...Here goes! I remember one distinct time as a child -- I don't remember the exact age, but I'm guessing elementary age -- asking my mom if she liked being a kid better or being an adult better. I distinctly remember my mom saying, "I like being an adult better." But, she said it VERY matter-of-factly, and she didn't embellish (for which now I'm grateful). I know it wasn't my mom's statement exactly, but I can very distinctly remember times throughout my childhood -- longing to be older, longing to grow up. The funny thing is -- I didn't have a bad childhood at all. My parents were married. My brother and I lived in a stable, yet not perfect (as nobody does), home. Naturually, there are "improvements" Marc & I are striving to make in our children's lives (I think most people do this). When I was in high school, I can remember several adults saying to me, "Boy -- I sure don't miss high school -- the drama, the hormones, etc." AND, of course, I distinctly remember, throughout a good portion of high school, LONGING to graduate and go to college. I'm sure my thought process was longing to get out of my parents' house, longing to be on my own (I'm fairly independent like that). Again, funny now, high school for me was not bad at all. I went to a safe, good school. I had friends, etc. etc. THEN, college arrived. The first 1/2 of college was fine. The second 1/2 was fine as well, BUT I can also remember a few older people saying to me, "Boy -- I don't miss those college days -- studying all of the time, NEVER having any money, etc. etc." I can vividly remember the second two years of college, longing to graduate and just be done with that phase of life. You might be seeing a trend by now. College was not a bad experience for me either. Other than the first year, I was not a traditional college student. I lived off campus. I worked a lot to pay rent, car insurance, etc. I managed to keep some scholarships. Combine all of that with a little bit of help with books from my parents, I managed to finish those last 3 years with ZERO debt -- and now that I'm older, am VERY grateful I took that route. But, despite college not being bad, I couldn't wait for the next phase of life. After I graduated, I got a good job within a couple of months. Around the age of 25, I was really longing to find the right person and get married. I remember having lunch with a friend one day (who was engaged at that point). She said to me, seemingly not meaning to offend or upset me, "Oh, I'm so glad I'm getting married -- I'm DONE with the dating scene." I remember thinking (but not saying aloud), "Well, that's great for you, but some of us have not yet met the right person to marry. Some of us are stillin that 'dating scene.'" I had graduated from college at the age of 22, and I didn't marry Marc until the age of 28. SO, I had 6 years of single, working-hood years. I spent 1/2 of those years, longing for the next stage of my life. At age 28, I got married to Marc. I loved getting married and being married. After 1 1/2 years of marriage, we started trying for a baby. That didn't happen right away for us. Those almost 2 1/2 years from starting to try for a baby until Luke was born, looking back now, I didn't enjoy. I was, again, longing for the next stage of life. Luke was born. We loved him (and still do love him, obviously). After another 1 1/2 years or so, we started trying for a second baby. Obviously, if you look at the age span of our kiddos, you know that didn't happen right away either. I vividly remember over the last 3 years or so, longing for that stage when we'd have another child. Kate was born last summer. While I was in the hospital (with a month early newborn who was way too sleepy to eat properly while recovering from a C-Section), somebody texted me (again, meaning no harm or discouragement), "I'm really glad I'm not in the newborn stage anymore." I remember sitting on my hospital bed thinking, "Yep, we're starting over after 4 years -- no sleep, here I come." I think I might've even shed a tear -- who knows? It's all a blur -- Ha! We know we won't have anymore kids. I often find myself thinking about all that I can do once both of our kids are in school full-time -- which will be a bit yet. At the same time, I announce fairly frequently to Marc that I will cry once Kate goes off to kindergarten. I know it's cliche, but the time with kids when they're small really does go fast. For that, I'm very grateful I stay home with them full-time right now. BUT, with all of that in mind, are you noticing a trend? I have spent virtually my entire life longing for the next stage? AND, I'm really wondering now just how much I miss in the current stage because I'm so longing for the next stage? Recently, in the last couple of months or so, I've read two different women bloggers announce just how much they love having older kids -- no more diaper bags, no little kid fits, no diapers, no bottles, etc... While I KNOW they mean absolutely no harm or lack of encouragement, it really is discouraging to those of us in that stage. It's harmless remarks like those that often put me in the "longing for the future" thought process. It's all of those people throughout elementary school, high school, college, single years, etc...that do not help my thought process. NOW, if you have done this to somebody, don't worry...I'm relatively certain I have as well. If I have done this to any of you, I deeply apologize. I seriously have started praying for God to help me with my words to other women/moms, etc....I want to encourage, not discourage. AND, I want to soak in EACH and EVERY moment with my small children right now. It's going so stinkin' fast. I LOVE hearing from older Godly moms -- they're advice, regrets, mothering tips, etc....I've been extremely blessed with a community of them at church. I am noticing a trend from many of these moms. They all seem to love my small kids and my friends' small kids. That tells me a couple of things. It tells me that as hard as life may seem right now with small kids, it's really a good stage to be in. It tells me that this stage isn't as bad as I sometimes think it is. It tells me that mothering really does matter....even when the world tells me that there is more to life than changing diapers, constantly disciplining, and time to myself at a definite premium. SO, thank you older mothers who have encouraged both myself and my friends with small kids. I pray that I have the awesome opportunity to do the same someday. And, as I already stated, I pray daily that what comes out of my mouth can be an encouragement to others, not a discouragement.


Candice said...

Very insightful post. I felt this way for much of my life, until I had kids. This was always the stage I was looking forward too, and I am enjoying it very much. Not that I don't have bad days, I definitely do! I hope this stage (while our kids are still kids <20 ) passes very slowly! I worry about when it's over. Then what? Theresa's always something to look forward to, but most important to appreciate 'the now'.

Candice said...

Autocorrect is annoying!

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The Sieberts said...

thank you for that Sarah! Love hearing your heart. I too have had to remind myself that 'this stage' of life is going SO fast and I need to enjoy/embrace it :)

More than just okay said...

Living in the moment, also known as mindfulness, is one of the foundations of Zen Buddhism. It's not easy; it does take practice. And no one can live in the moment at all times. But it is key to living a life of peace and contentment. It's taken me half a century to discover this.

What's sad is that now that I finally am free enough of my past to allow myself to enjoy my children, I have no more babies. But I will not dwell in the past any longer. I will enjoy my littlest one as much as I can now, without guilt.

Once it's warmer, you'll have to come visit me and let Luke enjoy our swing set and let me love on Kate.

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