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The verses that have REALLY spoken to me (Sarah) lately....

"Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock." Matthew 7:24-25

Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. I Peter 5:8-9

From one man he made every nation of men, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he determined the times set for them and the exact places where they should live. God did this so that men would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from each one of us. For in him we live and move and have our being. As some of your own poets have said, 'We are his offspring.' Acts 17:26-28

May the words of my mouth and the mediation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock, and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14

So be careful to do what the Lord your God has commanded you; do not turn aside to the right or to the left. Walk in all the way that the Lord your God has commanded you, so that you may live and prosper and prolong your days in the land that you will possess. Deuteronomy 5:32-33

God, our God, will take care of the hidden things but the revealed things are our business. It's up to us and our children to attend to all the terms in this Revelation. Deuteronomy 29:29 (The Message)

About the Friesen's....

We are Marc, Sarah, Luke, and Kate Friesen. We were married June 5, 2004. We have one son, born July 21, 2008, named Luke Andrew -- now 4 years old. We also have a daughter named Kate Christine -- born June 6, 2012. Marc is working at Cessna as a Senior Accountant, and Sarah stays home full-time with Luke. Sarah also gets to work very part-time at home for Graber Backhoe -- an excavation company AND VERY part-time at our church. We LOVE being a part of Grace Community Church here in Newton, KS. We lead a Community Life Group of other wonderful couples. Marc thoroughly enjoys long-distance running and Taekwondo. Sarah thoroughly enjoys walking -- especially when the weather is nice to take Luke and/or out in the stroller. Thanks for reading our blog!

Sunday, March 15, 2009

"It's Lookin' Like a Boy...."

One year ago, on the 17th of March (St. Patrick's Day), we found out that the baby I was carrying was a boy -- Luke.

We were surprised because Marc claimed he "instinctively" knew this baby would be a girl. He even had my parents, some other family members, and a few friends also convinced Luke was a girl. Don't tell Luke this when he was older, but we even occasionally (before we knew) referred to him by the girl name we had picked out. We were that sure Luke was a girl, thanks to Marc's instincts.

So, when the sonogram tech said, "It's lookin' like a boy," Marc had to admit he was wrong.

It took us both a little bit to "accept" (for lack of a better term) that Luke was a boy. We didn't mind it AT ALL, but it still took a bit for us to change our mindset.

It's a little scary -- raising a boy. In "Bringing Up Boys," author James Dobson does not give good statistics about boys.

-- Boys are six times more likely than girls to have learning disabilities.
-- Boys are four times more likely than girls to be diagnosed as emotionally disturbed.
-- Their rate of death in car accidents is 50% higher than girls.
-- 77% of delinquency related court cases involve boys.

God obviously thought that we were equipped, with His help of course, to raise a boy. He gave us one.

Marc and I both feel privileged that God has entrusted us with Luke. We pray daily for wisdom and guidance in raising him to be a man of Godly character, a man who will one day become the leader and provider of his household, a man who will love his wife just as Christ loved the church, a man who will raise his own children in a Godly way....

When I was pregnant with Luke, many people would ask me if we were having a boy or a girl. When I excitedly responded, "a boy," I sometimes saw a look of disappointment, like he wouldn't be as much "fun" to raise as a girl. I sometimes overheard people talking to some other women I knew that were having girls. The response about a girl was amazingly more "chipper." I even had one woman say, "Oh, my boys were terrible to raise."

How is that encouraging?

I've always found "men jokes" to NOT be very funny. Now, I want to cry when I hear one. So often, they are so degrading toward men. I know that, as a mother, I can't protect Luke from everything wrong in this world. But, like all mothers, I want to so very badly. Some of the jokes and media criticism of men is only the beginning of what I want to protect him from.

How will I combat the criticism? I will pray to God for wisdom. I will pray for Luke's future wife now. I will pray that Marc and I do the best we can (with God's help) in raising Luke to be a Godly man.

All your sons will be taught by the Lord, and great will be your children's peace. Isaiah 54:13

Here's Luke at the beginning of this month....sitting there like a Little Man, looking up to his dad.


Livesays said...

I understand your worries and concerns about raising a boy! I share them. It scares me to think of the world Caden will live in as an adult. Keep praying! That's something we can do for the boys (and men) in our lives.

The Boyds said...

Sarah, Thanks for the good post. If i remember correctly I was having the boy. I think the wires must have been crossed somewhere. I am in total agreement with you. I don't have a boy yet but we will have one someday, and I have the same concerns. But We have an awesome God who will take care of our families, and we have to rest in that assurance. Good for you! There is some hope, in knowing how our husbands and other Godly men turned out. We just have to pray and listen to the Spirit!

Aaron and Shannon said...

Sarah--- I know what you mean about people "seeming" disappointed when you tell them you're having a boy! But, I love my boy with all my heart and I know that I will do everything I can to protect him! So...YEAH for having boys!!

Allen and Debby Graber said...

Isn't it odd that in most countries, people are disappointed in having girls. In fact, in China some girls are "disposed" of. Just yesterday in the nursery, one mom told me "I'm so glad I have boys and don't have to deal with hormones!" Boys and girls, Jesus loves them both! I've raised one boy and two girls and each were precious in their own way!! Raising them to love the Lord with their whole heart is our goal. Loved your words of wisdom!

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